How can I prove that I was the primary care provider for the children? - Conrad Trosch & Kemmy

One tool to assist you and your attorney in establishing your case as a primary care provider is a chart indicating the care you and your spouse have each provided for your child. The clearer you are about the history of parenting; the better job your attorney can do in presenting your case to the judge.

Look at the activities in the chart to help you review the role of you and your spouse as care providers for your child.

Parental Roles Chart

ACTIVITY	MOTHER	FATHER
1. Attended prenatal medical visits
2. Attended prenatal class
3. Took time off work after child was born
4. Got up with child for feedings
5. Got up with child when sick at night
6. Bathed child
7. Put child to sleep
8. Potty-trained child
9. Prepared and fed meals to child
10. Helped child learn numbers, letters, colors, etc.
11. Helped child learn to read
12. Helped child with practice for music, dance lessons, sports
13. Took time off work for child’s appointments
14. Stayed home from work with sick child
15. Took child to doctor visits
16. Went to pharmacy for child’s medication
17. Administered child’s medication
18. Took child to therapy
19. Took child to optometrist
20. Took child to dentist
21. Took child to get haircuts
22. Bought clothing for child
23. Bought school supplies for child
24. Transported child to school
25. Picked child up after school
26. Drove car pool for child’s school
27. Went to child’s school activities
28. Helped child with homework and projects
29. Attended parent-teacher conferences
30. Helped in child’s classroom
31. Chaperoned child’s school trips and activities
32. Transported child to daycare
33. Communicated with daycare providers
34. Transported child from daycare
35. Attended daycare activities
36. Signed child up for sports, dance, music
37. Bought equipment for sports, dance, music
38. Transported child to sports, dance, music
39. Attended sports, dance, music practices
40. Attended sports games, dance recitals , music
41. Coached child’s sports
42. Transported child from sports, music, dance
43. Know child’s friends and friends’ families
44. Took child to religious education
45. Participated in child’s religious education
46. Obtained information and training about special needs of child
47. Comforted child during times of emotional upset